Monday, November 25, 2013


"...if possible, you would have plucked out your own eyes and given them to me.  Have I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?"  Galatians 4:15b-16

Boy, I tell you, this is a tough one.  It's not always easy being a truth-teller.  I'm not talking personal truth, I'm talking God's truth.

Last week a friend was sharing with me how her heart was hurting for a gal she knows is living in sin.  She has made some choices contrary to Scripture.  She has indicated that she is a believer, but she is choosing not to live God's Word on this one.  What a mess.

A faithful follower immediately hears alarm bells ringing.  Now, like a smoke detector, do we remove the battery until the smoke clears, buying us more time until the fire in our soul ignites again over this concern for another, or do we let this alarm in our spirits immediately try to pull a friend from danger?

I could just write volumes here.  I've done both.  I've kept silent for a period of time praying God would convict of sin.  Yes, that would be the easy way out for me, yet that can backfire too.  I recall one situation when afterwards my precious friend came sobbing to me asking, "Why didn't you tell me?  I just didn't know."  She was completely broken over her choices, and as a fairly new Christian she had simply not understood God's Word pertaining to her actions.  She just needed guidance.  Conviction and repentance followed her understanding.

Another time I shared truth repeatedly, yet sadly it was never received.  Oh agreement was spoken as Scriptures were opened, but there was never change.

Then, as the verse speaks above, dearest of friends can sadly become enemies when truth separates.  Enemies is such a harsh word.  It's not so much you they are opposing, but Christ in you.  God's light in you reveals the darkness in them and they don't want to be exposed.  They are content with their lifestyle and to follow God according to every detail of His Word is going to mean too much change.  It's easier to cover their sin with a blanket of truth that God is love, then to walk in obedience to His Word.  They are deceiving themselves.

So what do we do?

First, this is not about personal preferences, but God's precepts.  We have to know His Word.  We have to know it in context.  We can't be pulling out verses that justify our ideas.  Dig into Scripture.  Scripture!  Not the latest book on the topic regardless of how well-known or acclaimed the author might be.  Man is fallible.  God and His Word will never fail.

Prayerfully, with a heart of love, share truth.  We are not responsible for their reaction, but we are accountable for our actions.  If you are following the Lord, you know when He is nudging you to speak up.  The nudging is usually accompanied with human fear so we can easily tell it's God prodding our heart, because on our own we'd never say a word.  If you can't wait to show someone the err of their ways, the longing to correct might be birthed in a desire to 'be right'.  Pause and consider your own motives first.  Does your purpose come from a heart aching to see another walking in truth?  Is God encouraging you from His Word to confront in love?

There are no guarantees of the outcome.  That's the scary part.  Hopefully truth will be received and obeyed.  Truth-tellers aren't popular.  They weren't in Jesus day either.

If God is stirring your heart to speak His truth to someone, I'm praying He will give you wisdom and courage while filling you with His love so that the other dear soul will only see Christ's heart in the heeding.

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Susan said...

Thanks Joy...
Was reading Ezekiel 33:1-6 this morning...

Jill Beran said...

Joy, you have no idea that God has been speaking to me about this very thing!! And actually last Friday, He led me to speak up and share Truth. My friend thanked me for sharing and being bold, but as time has passed I've been doubting my actions and Satan has been attacking me because of them. But Joy then God led me here and confirmed His leading and my obedience...thank you, thank you for sharing.

Just last Monday night I shared about obedience at Titus24U. And used Ezekiel as my example...this morning God took me back to chapter 3. Thankful for the reminder that my job is to speak Truth. Even though we have no idea what others will do with it or how they will respond to it.

Again Joy thank you for this! So glad I stopped by!! Blessings to you!!

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Leah @ Point Ministries said...

Great truths here. The church does not confront sin the way it used to. We must do it in love and with the leading of the Holy Spirit. Thanks for the reminder.